There are two main obstacles to experiencing Bliss.

One is the many layers of associations, mental symbols we hold between ourselves and the sexual experience. In other words, he's screwing a Hollywood fantasy. She's making love to a a guitar, a Harley Davidson or a huge diamond. Being female, possibly a combination of all three. I explain the mechanism of association, the Pavlov thing, a little deeper at meditate.co.za.

The other is the "body memory" of past trauma and the resulting hypersensitivity (body armouring) or lost sensitivity, numbness. This is caused by many things, from Spock's potty training methods to circumcision and molestation. It is the physical manifestation of the mental attitude to sexuality, which is in turn mostly due to wrong mental associations.

There's a built in cure. Nature provides the mechanism for healing - your eroticism. Your eroticism draws you towards experiences that have healing potential for you. That can reawaken memories, evoke the re-experiencing of events, traumas that you have suppressed.

Taken with awareness, your sexual experience can become transcendent. Encouraging this is the work of a Tantrika, a Dakini. She's a scary blend of goddess, harpy and muse. Her love of you - the you behind your mind's masks - is total and unswerving. Her ruthlessness with your mind/ego - with your fantasies in the way of the truth - is absolute.

A Dakini is conscious with her own sexuality, and teaches you how to become conscious with yours. Key repressions are revealed and the attendant body armouring is gently removed,

The process requires a deep trust and willingness to experience intimacy.

This trust is akin to the trust required with any healer. She knows what she's doing, what's required. You need to trust the unfolding of your process.

Tantra isn't for everyone. True, everyone can benefit by approaching sex with more awareness, more sensitivity, but the psychologically powerful energies of tantric practice are not for dabblers. If you want to (continue to) take your ego seriously, forget it.

Commitment is vital, and the mental flexibility of a true seeker. If you are genuinely drawn to this work, you'll know.

 

Healing Sessions with Dakini / Daka

Sessions can involve nudity, massage, intimacy and ecstasy.
Participants must be drug and alcohol free for at least 24 hours preceding the session.

 

• Techniques similar to massage, bodywork and reiki are used to address the effects of repression in the body and chakras.

• Lost sensitivity is restored as body armouring is gently removed.

• Awareness in and of your sexuality is encouraged with meditation techniques.

 

A consultation, to get an idea of your experience, and which areas of work you require is arranged, at which Sw. Rahasya will answer your questions about tantra, and what practices would best benefit you. If work with a Dakini is indicated, sessions can then be arranged.

In these sessions, your Kundalini energy is encouraged, and the blockages to it's flow are eased, or temporarily bypassed.

This helps you to identify your blocks as the Dakini facilitates your identifying and continuing with your own healing work. The Dakini uses a combination of touch and energy work, similar to Bodywork, Reiki and Chi Gung. Details of the healing work depend on the client's repressions, and how they present in the body armouring.

You are responsible for your own movement and healing work - whatever we, or anyone else does to help, it's your life, your journey. You can only work effectively with a Dakini if you have a sincerity, a trust, a willingness to take her "medicine" and go where it takes you.

There's no dogma, no belief system required. We work with methods, not ideas. You may think of your sexuality as a compartment, an area of your life. It isn't. It's the source, in an energetic and physical sense, of your life energy. Working with it, releasing it, healing it has deep and profound effects on the whole of your life.

The Dakini, like any healing practitioner, diagnoses , treats, prescribes and recommends what her intuition, training and experience indicate is right for you. She reserves the right to discontinue working with you, particularly if you don't follow her recommendations.

The appropriate and archetypically correct approach, attitude to a Dakini is devotion. The same as an artist's, a poet's devotion to his Muse. Working with sexual energy is unavoidably intense emotionally, psychologically. It is not necessary to the process that you "like it". You are asking someone to help you wake up, and to use perhaps the most powerful methods known to do it. It will be intense, deliberately shattering to mindset and ego, but lovingly supportive of you, the beyond-ego, essential you.

Part of a Dakini's freedom is that in her world, love is a natural phenomenon. The most natural phenomenon. It can't be any other way - Existence itself is Love.

A large part of the work she does with you is called "opening the heart". This is best done with a sharp bladed weapon. Strike firmly, with a spirit of - whoops that bit's for the Dakini's self defence page - let's start over.

A large part of the work she does with you is called "opening the heart". This expands your ability to experience love. Constrictions based in your judgments, preconceptions and fears will be evoked, exposed to your conscious awareness and transcended. Whatever it takes.

Love does hurt, though when it does, it's still undeniably love. Meditation techniques to help you move through this will be recommended. Running (30 minutes minimum), hitting a punch bag, strangling or even raping a pillow, dancing (without e) are also highly recommended for emotional release. It's daunting, facing the fear of opening your heart, falling in love, deeply, without a safety net. The Dakini is not seducing you into loving her. She's seducing you into loving existence itself. She stands in for and makes the Goddess available.

If you are in a sexually exclusive relationship, and both interested, sessions with a male (Daka) or female (Dakini) or both, can be arranged. They will lovingly guide you to blissful discoveries with each other, and introduce you to healing techniques which you can practice together.

If you are new to tantra, we will usually recommend that you start with some group work. If you've already done group or lots of individual work and don't find what's said here confusing, just get in touch, and let your bliss begin.

If you believe you are called to this work, have a flowing, natural sexuality, and are willing, selflessly to support others to their bliss, you may be interested in the recordings at tantrachool.co.za.

The events page lists upcoming workshops and events.